Have you noticed that your social media use seems to have taken control of your life? Social media today tends to dominate the consciousness of many young adults even when they’re in the company of family and/or friends! For goodness sake, otherwise sensible people are being found taking ‘death’ defying selfies just for the sake of posting these pictures to their social accounts just to get more likes, shares or followers! Yup, our obsession with these online social sites can NOT be denied, but why are they so addicting?
Here, in my opinion, are 5 reasons that we as citizens of the internet have found ourselves addicted to social media today…
Convenient Access (24/7)
It’s all about availability! Online social sites are easily accessible at any time of the day or night and can be accessed using any number of mobile devices or going old school by using a computer! This convenient access tends to increase the number of times you may log-in to your account which in turn develops into a habit and yup, an addiction if you’re not careful! These sites were originally developed for our use to enjoy and to connect with other like-minded people but 24/7 access has made it very difficult to resist its addictive nature!
No Personality, No Problem
With all the filters and remoteness associated with using social media today, anybody can easily ‘reinvent’ themselves to be more exciting! Lacking in inter-personal skills is NOT a deterrent for anyone wanting to partake in any of the many online social sites available! Conversations are not always in ‘real’ time so spontaneity is NOT required therefore people lacking a spunky personality can still easily and comfortably slide in and out of conversations with other site members! Having time to ‘prepare’ any response is HUGE for anyone who may have anxiety issues when it comes to socializing with others!
Having an increase in confidence is a great feeling to experience, no matter who you are or what you’ve accomplished! It is a ‘comfort’ zone in which you feel you’re in total control and using social media today is something that definitely fosters the feeling of confidence! As mentioned above you’re able to ‘prepare’ your responses as well as choose topics to talk about with which you are familiar and knowledgeable! For people feeling socially awkward, the remoteness and lack of required spontaneity associated with online social sites is just what they need to help them comfortably engage with others!
Meeting New ‘Friends’
For those folks who are not overly outgoing or who don’t have much contact with others, social media today offers the chance to overcome your shyness and to meet new people! Now I’m not going to ‘push’ the notion that all the ‘friends’ you make on these sites are in fact people who really know you and feel a strong bond since that’s not true! What is true is some of these new acquaintances may develop into friends however just being able to talk to others about things of interest to you is a big plus, especially for those who are otherwise socially remote!
Just by simply being involved in the social media madness tends to ‘validate’ you with your peers as well as family. The sense or feeling of being involved or ‘in the know’ is uplifting and hard to resist because we as humans tend to prefer being part of something! In fact, many people use their contacts, likes, shares and/or followers as a form of validation of their popularity or as strange as it sounds, their worth! As sad as it may be our ‘popularity’ on social media today is often tied to our self-worth which is a perfect example of how the internet has actually made changes to our value systems! For those lacking in self-worth, using social sites to build up followers or be otherwise recognized in the community is their best bet to feel better about themselves!
Has your social media use taken control of your life so much so that you find yourself constantly checking your status, even when in the company of others? Well, you’re NOT alone because social media today, for very many and especially young adults, has become very addicting. We use these online social sites as a way of ‘meeting’ new people, posting pictures (to impress) and even to check on the news! Make no mistake social media has gone mainstream and it does serve some very good purposes, however, like anything else ‘too much of a good thing’ can turn sour! The point here is you must take back control of your life if you find yourself obsessing too much about your social media accounts! Start today by spending more time with friends and family, you can always check your status online but learn to limit your access!