Do you have fears that hold you back from trying new things that may improve your life either personally or professionally? Well it is NOT uncommon for you or anybody else to experience the feeling of anxiety once you’ve left your comfort zone to try something new! We all have certain self-doubts that inhibit our abilities to take action in particular areas and being paralyzed by fear in this way will keep you from experiencing a fuller life! The first step in overcoming fears like these is to recognized what they are and why they keep us from taking action!
Here are 5 very common fears that can and will limit the amount of success and happiness you can experience in your life and why they do so…
Being successful at anything usually takes hard work and dedication but even this does NOT guarantee success will be yours! Another thing to consider is that once you’ve achieved any measure of success, expectations of YOU will increase and this can therefore apply more pressure to many people due to higher expectations of them! Success also tends to ‘push’ people closer to the limelight and although this type attention is commonly desired, some people place a high value on their privacy and may find the attention invasive! The above scenarios all point to the discomfort associated with being removed from your comfort zone and having to adjust to newer and higher standards!
The ‘flip-side’ of success is of course failure and many are understandably paralyzed by fear that if they attempt anything new they will fail! For starters failing to achieve your goals, whatever they may be, is a humbling experience! The realization that despite your efforts yours goals were not reached is a wake-up call to not only your ego but also the fact that you may have over-reached your potential requiring you to lower your own expectations, ouch! Possibly the biggest reason we all fear failure is the embarrassment associated with others being aware of your less than successful efforts thereby diminishing your sense of worth! In this case many may feel it is better NOT to try than to try and fail!
Many have a fear of commitment due to what they may feel is a loss of their ‘current’ freedom by taking on new long-term responsibilities! Some people feel they just don’t have anymore room in their lives for additional responsibilities while others simply feel this commitment will keep them from pursuing other opportunities that may present themselves! These people just want to keep their ‘options’ open in hopes better things still await them! Dreamers like this will typically always try to avoid committing to anything including any associated responsibilities!
For many, no matter what the current status of their lives may be, the fact remains that they are familiar with what to expect! Being in your comfort zone does NOT always mean you’re doing well but rather you are ‘settled’ in your current existence and have learned to make do with it! Change is often good although sometimes it may not be, but the fact is change can be very unpredictable and who wants to deal with that?
This particular fear is simple to understand, it’s called self-preservation and most every living mammal or otherwise possesses this instinct! Only extreme thrill seekers will intentionally put themselves in harms way just for the sake of the experience and/or adrenaline rush! Most people would literally be paralyzed by fear when facing situations, intentionally or otherwise, that could lead to injury or death! Actually this is a very healthy fear to have and is one that I too possess!
Having fears that hold you back in any part of your life can typically be attributed to you venturing from your comfort zone! In many cases, fearing change like we just referred to above, can easily be overcome, but when you’re paralyzed by fear or the feeling of anxiety, obviously the issues behind these fears are more deeply rooted! By identifying what is holding you back and understanding the reasons why, you’re in a much better position to take the necessary corrective actions as we discussed above! Look, life is to be enjoyed and fully experienced, but remaining on the sidelines due to your doubts or fears will only limit the amount of success and joy you ‘allow’ into your life! Take action now and get the hell out of your comfort zone so you can fully participate in the life you have been given!